Having a baby changes everything
I'd always wanted to be a Mom. I knew that I would have children someday. My mother was very distraught when in my early twenties I explained to her that if I wasn't married by the time I was 30, I would consider having a child out of wedlock. She just about up and had a coronary, but I was dead serious. I knew that being a Mom was not something that I was willing to not do.
I really didn't truly understand how selfless you had to be to be a parent and I only have a 2 year old. I can only imagine what the future has in store for me. I do, however, know that being a parent has made me look at the world very differently. I now realize that everything that I do will in someway impact my son. This means that I have to think more and make the best decisions I can if I want to ensure that the quality of my son's life is at least the quality of life that I had.
I have a girlfriend who always vowed not to be a parent and now that she is, she is the most doting and loving mother that I've ever seen. Once you give birth, adopt or in some way fold a child into your life, everything changes. Life stops being all about you and you really do realize that the earth really does not revolve around you. Since the basics of being a good person is realizing that you live in a world and impact others, I would think that becoming a parent would help most people to become better people. I know this is thoroughly utopian, but hey, it's my hope.
I know that there are some people out there who really shouldn't be parents and I also know that there are some who are simply too scared of the responsiblity to even consider the thought. I always wondered how those people (who because they are too scared or too selfish) felt when they turned 50 and 60 and had no "family" of their own. Holidays are all about family and no matter how good friends you are with someone, when you have no-one who is truly yours, that must be a very sad life.
I was having a conversation with a young woman, who happens to be gay, the other day and she told me that she worried that she might be missing out on something by not having children and that she wondered about it more and more as she got older. The maternal instinct in most women is very strong because hey, they need us to perpetuate the human race.
In conclusion how do I know that having a baby changes everything. Well, I'd much rather stay home and watch him watch Sesame Street and Barney than go out to a club dancing. I'd much rather watch him learn how to swim than read a good book. I want a bigger house so that he has more space to play where I can keep him safe; but the biggest one of all is that I've decided not to apply for a promotion at work because i want to drop him at school, pick him up and spend time with him. That is more important than more money and prestige. Having a baby changes everything.
I really didn't truly understand how selfless you had to be to be a parent and I only have a 2 year old. I can only imagine what the future has in store for me. I do, however, know that being a parent has made me look at the world very differently. I now realize that everything that I do will in someway impact my son. This means that I have to think more and make the best decisions I can if I want to ensure that the quality of my son's life is at least the quality of life that I had.
I have a girlfriend who always vowed not to be a parent and now that she is, she is the most doting and loving mother that I've ever seen. Once you give birth, adopt or in some way fold a child into your life, everything changes. Life stops being all about you and you really do realize that the earth really does not revolve around you. Since the basics of being a good person is realizing that you live in a world and impact others, I would think that becoming a parent would help most people to become better people. I know this is thoroughly utopian, but hey, it's my hope.
I know that there are some people out there who really shouldn't be parents and I also know that there are some who are simply too scared of the responsiblity to even consider the thought. I always wondered how those people (who because they are too scared or too selfish) felt when they turned 50 and 60 and had no "family" of their own. Holidays are all about family and no matter how good friends you are with someone, when you have no-one who is truly yours, that must be a very sad life.
I was having a conversation with a young woman, who happens to be gay, the other day and she told me that she worried that she might be missing out on something by not having children and that she wondered about it more and more as she got older. The maternal instinct in most women is very strong because hey, they need us to perpetuate the human race.
In conclusion how do I know that having a baby changes everything. Well, I'd much rather stay home and watch him watch Sesame Street and Barney than go out to a club dancing. I'd much rather watch him learn how to swim than read a good book. I want a bigger house so that he has more space to play where I can keep him safe; but the biggest one of all is that I've decided not to apply for a promotion at work because i want to drop him at school, pick him up and spend time with him. That is more important than more money and prestige. Having a baby changes everything.
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